25 questions to ask a man to know his real intentions (2023)

What questions can you ask a man to find out his true intentions without saying, "Chris, what are you going to do with me?"

When you meet a new man and you have a great connection, it's natural to wonder where he is emotionally.

he likes me, or am I imagining?

Does he see it somewhere in the future, or is it more of agood enough for nowLage?

If you're looking for a long-term relationship, you want to know sooner rather than later if he wants the same thing. Your time is too valuable to be wasted on a dead end. Summer flirting is great, but you've got romances to indulge and you're looking for the real deal.

That's why I've compiled a list of top questions to ask a guy so you can find out what his real intentions are without having to ask him directly what his intentions are and risk scaring him off.

Questions to Ask a Guy to Know His Real Intentions (If You've Just Started Dating)

1. What do you like and dislike about dating?

This question will help you discover how this man views the dating experience. Is he the type of guy who gets bitter and upset because he still hasn't found his perfect partner, or is he positive and sees each new date as an opportunity to meet someone new? His dating likes and dislikes will show you what is important to him in dating and what he is looking for.

2. Do you like being single?

You mayenjoy being single ebe open to finding a relationship at the same time. It's about seeing how comfortable he is inside and how desperate he is on a scale of 1-10 to mate. The sweet spot is a man who is content with being single but also wants to find someone to share his life with. Someone who enjoys snuggling up and snacking on the couch as much as going out to a bar on a Saturday night. Sense: Someone who loves boys night as much as they love date night.

3. What do you think of casual dating and dating?

One of the many great questions to ask a man to find out his true intentions. Of course, he could be lying to you, so remember to listen to what he's saying, but pay more attention to his actions. If he says he doesn't like dating and then invites you over to his house for the first date, he's probably telling the piggy.

4. Have you ever ghosted someone?

You mayTrust a man who fantasized about someone elsein the past?

There are three possible answers to this question:

1. "No, I never ghosted anyone" when in fact he ghosted a woman last month. This man is a liar and doesn't have the courage to admit his mistakes. Time to say NEXT!
2. "Yes I havespookywomen in the past, and I'm not proud of that." A much better answer, because while what he did isn't great; he takes responsibility for his actions.
3. "No, I never fantasized anyone", and he's telling the truth because he's a super decent man who would never think of doing something like that. You have a rare gem in your hands.

5. What do your friends say about your love life?

Our friends and family can often see patterns and themes in our lives that we are not aware of. This question will help you understand the difference between howIt isthink your love life compares to what your friends think about your love life. Does he have a reputation for falling too quickly or jumping from one relationship to another without taking a breath? All great tips to give you a better insight into what motivates him and what his intentions are with you.

6. Where do you see yourself in 5 years?

Does he see marriage and children in his future? Does he plan to move cities or continents? Or would you like to found a company or expand an existing one?

This is one of the best questions to ask a man to find out his true intentions, as it will help him determine if you share his life values. If he thinks about quitting his job and traveling the world in a hot air balloon for the next five years, this is unlikely to turn into a long-term relationship unless he plans to have you join him.

7. How would you describe your ideal partner?

When faced with this question, it's hard for a man to lie about what he's really looking for in a woman - of course the truth will come out. Pay attention to what he says and whether his ideal woman fits his personality and lifestyle.

For example, if he says his dream girl is a Martha Stewart housewife (minus jail time), but you're a busy woman who loves her job, that probably won't work. When he gets home from work he wants homemade chicken casseroles on the stove that you can laugh out loud and say you expected the same from him!

8. Do you date other women?

On myLove Accelerator-Coaching-Programm, I emphasize to women that until you specifically have the conversation where you both decide to be in an exclusive relationship, you assume that you are single. And if you're single, you should keep seeing other people and qualify your options (I call thisLittle Love Step #4🇧🇷 So if you haven't already, he should be dating other women - a quality man will be dating other women at this point.

9. What do you think about long-term relationships?

Has he ever been in a long-term relationship (hopefully)? Does he like being in a relationship? What does he like best and does it line up with what you love too?

Beware of any man who says he doesn't like labels or thinks marriage is a sham. While it's perfectly normal not to want to get married, comments like this usually just come fromattachment phobia.

10. Are you looking for a serious commitment?

That way you can find out more directly if he is looking for something serious or not.he is looking for sex🇧🇷 Most men will be honest with you.

If hesaidYou, "I'm not ready for a relationship right now," don't take this as code for "The right woman would make me want to be in a relationship." Is not. He is honest with you about what he can (and cannot) give you. If he says he's looking for something long term, you'll have a more solid idea of ​​his true intentions.

11. What is your biggest priority in life?

We all have countless areas of our lives to juggle (work, family, friends, health, hobbies, spirituality, etc.), and there will be times when we need to devote more energy to one of these areas than the other. That's life. But this question will help you see if he prioritizes relationships and family in general, or if work or personal ambitions always come first. An excellent follow-up question is to ask him why.

12. What is your biggest goal?

Your current goals will inevitably affect you. Let's say you're dating a tech entrepreneur building the next Facebook — this will inevitably affect his ability to engage in a relationship with you, and it will affect the lifestyle you can lead as a couple. He might have regular 18-hour days and sleep in his office several nights a week, while you're looking for a man who has time to take you to the ballet after work and snuggle up with you in Paris for brunch with coffee and croissants.

13. Are any of your friends peers?

This is one of the most important questions to ask a man to find out his true intentions for you, as it will give you a good idea of ​​his current lifestyle and the influences he has around you.

If all of his friends are single and living together in apartments where they throw crazy parties that regularly last until 5am and are shut down by the police, he might not be in the mood for a relationship. But if most of his friends are a couple, living with their partner, married or with kids, he'll see how happy they are, which is likely to make him want that.

14. How many dates should people go on before sleeping together?

Another great question to gauge if he's looking for something casual or more serious. The more he's dying to jump into bed, the more likely he's looking for something casual.

If you want to know more about how many dates to wait before having sex with a man,check this article.

Questions to Ask a Man to Know His True Intentions (After 5-10 Dates)

1. What's the longest relationship you've ever had?

This is how you ask someone about their intentions without saying so directly. His answer to this question will tell you if he knows what a healthy relationship looks like, if he isemotional reif, and if he is boyfriend material. If he's constantly struggling to make things last longer than three months, he's either being ridiculously demanding or doing something that makes women leave him like hot pie.

2. Have you ever been in love?

As with the previous question, this will give you an idea of ​​how quickly he falls in love and how many times he has fallen in love. Has he ever been in love? He thought he was in love, but now, looking back wisely, doesn't he think it was for real? His answer will tell you if he is open to finding love and ready for it.

3. Tell me about your last serious relationship?

This is right up there in important questions to ask a man to know his true intentions and where his head is at.

How long has it been since he last broke up?

If it's been less than six months, maybe he's still thinking about his ex, got married and broke up?

If not, don't get involved.

How long did the relationship last?

If it's been years, you know he's capable of maintaining a serious relationship.

4. Why did you break up?

This is a great follow-up question to the previous one. Who broke up with who or was it mutual? how is he talkingex them🇧🇷 With kindness or with bitterness and guilt? A man who wants to live in a healthy and lasting relationship will be aware of his mistakes and will take joint responsibility for his failed relationships.

This question will give you insight into his quirks, flaws, and mental state, as well as shed light on potential issues or issues that could affect your relationship with him.

5. What do you think is the best thing about being in a relationship?

How does he feel in a relationship and what is important to him? Is a relationship attractive to him because he's looking for a pretty woman to flaunt at charity events and iron his shirts too? Or is it better for him to have someone who is always there for him, cheering him on and loving him, even when he's sick in bed and hasn't showered in three days?

6. Do you worry about being in a serious relationship?

You're giving him a golden opportunity to survive if he's having trouble making a long-term commitment to you. The answer you are looking for here isno🇧🇷 But if he had a terribledisruption, it's okay if he's afraid of getting hurt again, as long as he doesn't let that fear control his life.

7. What does cheating mean to you?

This is one of those questions to ask a man that will give him a better sense of his moral code and boundaries, which directly affect his true intentions with you.

some people havedifferent ideas about what it means to cheat.

Do you cheat when you work out at the gym and notice someone you find attractive? you aremockwhen you flirt with a cute stranger at a bar? How about occasionally fantasizing about someone else during sex?

When he thinks about having sex with other women on another continentNocount it as cheating, that's your cue to go.

8. When do you think someone is ready to get married?

This isn't the most subtle question, but if marriage is important to you, it's a great question. If he gives you a certain age, think about where he is in relation to that age and whether that time frame is okay. Most people in the US marry between25 e 30🇧🇷 If he's in his 40s or older, there's a good chance he's divorced and may or may not want to remarry. But it's better to find out now than to invest heavily in this man only to find out months later that he refuses to walk down the aisle again.

9. Can you imagine having children?

It's himalready father🇧🇷 If so, does he want more children or does he already have a handful by five? If not, does he see children in his future or is he content with his life as it is now?

There is no right or wrong answer to this question; what matters is that you are on the same page. If your cats are more than enough company for you, but he's always dreamed of having a mini football team, he's not your vision of love (Little Love Step #2).

10. How do you feel about your time together?

Does he like to spend time with you? is he having fun Or does he not have much to say about it, or worse, avoid answering the question? So you lightheartedly ask him about his intentions. Yes, you're shaming him a little bit here, but after you've been on more than five dates with a guy, your relationship should develop organically, and that's a natural question to ask.

11. Where do you see this going in the future?

Wondering how you can ask a man what he wants? The last question on my list is to go the direct route and ask him where he sees the relationship. This is the best approach if he tends to avoid talking about the future because there's no way around it. He'll say where he sees things or he'll say he doesn't know, and that in itself is an answer because he's undecided.It isa decision.

Are you ready to define your relationship?

Once you know his true intentions, you might be ready to define your relationship. I call itLittle Love Step #6.

Avoid asking him, "What are we?" because that will give your power to him!

Also, don't avoid talking about the future and pray that one day he talks about it, or assume he must be on the same page as you - he could be on another planet.

Follow the three Rs:

1. Tell him you're looking for somethingreal– You're not looking for anything casual.
2. Calmhim that you like him - Men need to know that you like them.
3. resetthe current relationship – what does he want and does it match his desires?

Don't stop dating other men until you've had this conversation and explicitly defined the relationship. Until you do, you are single and free to date other people.

Conclusion

Have you ever asked a man any of these questions to find out his real intentions? What happened? Tell me about it in the comments below!